#1. Behaviour is a gift!

There are always things that 'push our buttons', that get on our nerves, that wind us up!

Sometimes we respond in a way that just increases the conflict. So, if we can change our response to the things that we find most difficult then we find ourselves feeling calmer more of the time, and we are helping our children and those around us learn that there are ways of talking and thinking that are more likely to mean that we are more OK more of the time.

There is no good, bad, right or wrong behaviour - it is all helpful, even though some of it feels really uncomfortable and frustrating to be around.